Both mothers and fathers report experiencing problems when trying to reconcile work and family life. Taking time off work is likely to have adverse career consequences. Mothers who return to work tend to get overlooked for promotion, sometimes taking on tasks for which they are overqualified. However, fathers taking longer parental leave must also brace for negative reactions.
When registering parental leave, fathers report experiences of discrimination more often than mothers. This was found by the study “Discrimination experiences of gainfully employed persons with care duties in the context of pregnancy, parental leave and family caregiving” (Diskriminierungserfahrungen von fürsorgenden Erwerbstätigen im Kontext von Schwangerschaft, Elternzeit und Pflege von Angehörigen), which the Federal Anti-Discrimination Agency unveiled in May 2022.
In the context of this research project, an online survey was conducted among 2,500 parents, whose youngest child was under seven years old, and 504 people who were caring for relatives on a regular basis.
When announcing their decision, fathers experience disparaging or negative remarks from their superiors more often (fathers: 30 %; mothers: 24 %). In addition, more fathers (19 %) than mothers (11 %) feel pressured into not taking parental leave or reconsidering its duration.
The duration of parental leave taken up varies considerably by the parent’s gender. Discounting a few exceptions, all of the mothers surveyed took more than two months off. The majority of fathers (64 %) only took a maximum of two months leave. Accordingly, more fathers (46 %) than mothers (36 %) feel that the parental leave is too short.
People who care for their relatives themselves also experience discrimination when trying to reconcile work, family and caregiving responsibilities. 54 % of interviewees announcing their intention to take caregiver leave or family caregiver leave reported that superiors or executives reacted with disparaging or negative remarks to learning the duration of leave. 45 % report that they were put under pressure to not take caregiver leave or cut its intended duration. Expand corporate measures to ensure reconciliation and protection from discrimination:
In its recommendations for action on the legal opinion “Protecting caregivers from discrimination - Caregiver discrimination” (Diskriminierungsschutz von Fürsorgeleistenden – Caregiver Discrimination), the Federal Anti-Discrimination Agency came out in favour of preventive measures to address caregiver discrimination. Among other suggestions, companies and operations should put in place contacts who cover the topics of pregnancy/parenthood, parental leave and family care-giving, providing information about in-house and outside support opportunities and who can also be approached in case of discrimination in a confidential manner. Moreover, the survey results suggest that adverse and discriminatory experiences of caregivers in the working world continue to be grounded in antiquated gender role assumptions. Here, training programmes, especially aimed at HR managers and executives, can help to challenge gender stereotypes and to sensitise them to the risks of discrimination faced by working caregivers.